Our generation has a pretty skewed view when it comes to this ordeal we call dating.
Social media and the Internet have drastically changed how dating is viewed in the 21st century. Snapchat conversations and Instagram “likes” have now been accepted as a form of flirting. A “like” on Instagram is way more common than a compliment in real life.
Dating apps such as Tinder, eHarmony and Christian Mingle are a few of the most popular online dating sites. According to Pewresearch.org, one third of people who have used online dating have never actually gone on a date with someone they met on these sites. This shows how this generation is obsessed with “the idea of someone,” even to the point of online flirting, but never a personal conversation. When it comes to actually following through and talking in real life, people fall short.
Simple facets of dating such as opening a door and paying for a meal seem completely foreign to the majority of our society. We seem to want to rush dating, and with a plethora of apps able to assist our impatient desires, the Internet is filled with hopeful seekers waiting to catch a break.
Even though the concept of finding someone through an unconventional source has been around from the beginning, the idea of finding someone on the Internet is relatively new. The public saw this approach first in the 1998 film “You’ve Got Mail,” starring Tom Hanks. The filmmakers worked hard to remove all the negative stereotypes associated with the practice, and, with the Internet rising in sensation, it was only a matter of time before people grabbed hold to the new way of dating.
Not long before the Internet uproar, there was this thing called romance. Not gooshy romance and Valentine’s, but simply guys pursuing girls in a healthy manner that brought fulfillment to the original intent of dating: getting to know someone better. More times than not, it happened in person.
Going out with someone wasn’t a weird situation, but a genuine time to get to know each other. It wasn’t a matter of “if” and “but,” rather, “when” and “how.”
The point is simple. Our world is constantly changing as we seek new ways to discover what we hope could be love.
May this serve as a small reminder that above any app, website or meaningful conversation, the best relationship you can invest in is one between two people who are fully present in the same room.