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Disagreeing love

“Pride” month is primarily a month of celebration for proponents of same-sex actions and unions. A common Christian belief regarding those with same-sex attraction is that temptation alone is not sinful (cf. Matthew 4:1-11 and James 1:14-15), but it is sin to act upon the temptation to sin. God doesn’t call those with same-sex attraction to a life “married” to someone of the same gender, but instead calls them to a life of chastity, purity and virtue.

However, this view is often regarded as hateful, homophobic (hatred of homosexuals) and not inclusive. Chastity, contrary to what some might believe, is not unhappiness. God calls everyone to chastity, particularly before marriage, which explains part of the Honor Code. This certainly does not mean the average Honor Code-abiding ORU student is unhappy.

To clarify, I am not calling for hatred of those with same-sex attraction. Chastity with same-sex attraction is a unique cross to carry. In the Gospel of Luke, Jesus says, “If anyone wishes to come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.” Jesus later says, “Whoever is ashamed of me and of my words in this faithless and sinful generation, the Son of Man will be ashamed of when he comes in his Father’s glory with the holy angels.” The NIV translates “faithless” as “adulterous.”

Nowhere in the Gospels, however, does Jesus teach us to hate our brother or sister in Christ, particularly those who sin against us. Christians who believe the entire Bible is true do not hate those who experience or act on their same-sex attraction, but disagree with the acting upon of those attractions. There is no “bigotry” or “homophobia” as the world may say.

Recently, I found that some people are saying that this disagreement is hatred. I never understood this, as people disagree with others all the time, and the two have very different meanings. If disagreement is hate, all communication ceases.

Christians do not, and cannot in good conscience, hate those who act on same-sex attraction. Many Christians have likely heard the phrase, “hate the sin, love the sinner,” but this exact quote is not in Scripture. 

However, its concept is found in Jude 1:21-23: “Keep yourself in the love of God and wait for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ that leads to eternal life. On those who waver, have mercy; save others by snatching them out of the fire; on others have mercy with fear, abhorring even the outer garment stained by the flesh.”

Besides this, there are some Christians that truly hate those with same-sex attraction, unfortunately. However, as with anyone, it is ignorant to judge an entire group based on the actions of a few. Jesus never taught hate, but He taught us to love and pray, which is why we strive to bring all souls to Christ in His Kingdom.

If most of what I have written is obvious, great. God’s message to Bible-believing Christians, whether or not they struggle with same-sex attraction, is this: “In the world you have tribulation; but be of good cheer, I have conquered the world” (John 16:33), and, “Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind” (Romans 12:2). Disagreement is love.